Where are they now?

Hi again avid followers, newcomers, future exes and my future husband,

Similar to a VH1 special of ex TV and movie stars who have seemed to just disappear I began to wonder the same about my ex-manventures and conquests. It has been 6 years since I have been battling the single life and on-line dating...

Here I am..
29 years old and in an on-again off-again relationship with of 4 years with a man that is afraid of commitment, but not afraid of seeing if there is anything better out there. I can't explain anymore why I put myself through it, but as I sit around while he is in Florida I began to wonder what happened to all those other guys... the ones that got away.

Here is an update on those who I could locate. (Thank you facebook for the updates)

 Level 10 clinger: My very first manventure has been happily in a relationship since 2012. No ring on it though!

The Marine: Currently a bartender and possibly still single. But I think that ship has sailed.

The Financial Analyst: This one actually went on a date with a girl I was once friends with... it didn't work out. He is still working the dating site world.

The teacher: ohhhh the teacher... I saw him a few times with things were not working out with the blue-eyed devil. But not more then 2 months ago he took himself off the market and off my facebook friend list. Engaged to the girl he met after me. Oh well.

Grey T-shirt Guy: I honestly wish I had my head on straight for this winner -- said no girl ever -- this loser runs in and around my newly open circle of friends. He is engaged (poor girl) and still as sleazy as ever. Not a loss here!

Mr. Dimples: Him and his creepy cat "Cookie" as still single. The last I heard from him was this New Years Eve. No thanks! BYE!

Cougar (my little cub RAWR): Is now a baby daddy and engaged! DUMB... so much for a back-up plan.

And the others? I have no idea what happened to them; however, they were all good men. If they weren't they would have never ended up on even one date with me.

Now I have a choice. Get back on the dating site train and say good-bye to the blue-eyed devil or I truck on... stick it out... be patient

I may never really be able to give up on him.

XOXO
**ME**

In summary...

Hi again avid followers, newcomers, future ex's and my future husband,

I wish I had something more witty to tell you... some elaborate love story of two kindred spirits that find each other one clear night when every star could be seen in the sky. But... that would just be another fairy tale.

What I want to tell you and what I know happened are two different things. These manventures have been nothing but that... adventures... adventures of finding the wrong men in the right places and the right men at the wrong time. I could continue down the path of who I have fell for...found... and fell in bed with but you could always just watch a daytime soap. Love can't be forced or found that easily... it isn't a guessing game or timing. It is how you feel at that moment when you just know...

As a recap and to bring us all up to current date on manventure... because I have horrible insomnia tonight...

Mr. Strong and Silent...
was more silent then he was strong. Beneath the gorgeous strong exterior was a man who had no idea what was right in front of him. Our conversations were unsatisfying... he had a wall built up and I would not be the one to tear it down. Instead of learning more about each other I learned about his interest in... other people's failing relationship... both in love and friendship. I tried tirelessly to make them out to be deeper conversations then they actually were... Looking back I see what was really going on... sex.

Shallow... hot... lonely sex.

It only ended when after he asked someone else to a special engagement that I knew he would never really know me... we were never and would never really be friends. We would just be two people who from May to October had late night lonely sex... detached from emotion. Now it is March of 2010 and he will still text me late some weekend nights... but I keep it short. I can't fall into my old routine...

I deserve better.

Cougar...
I am not sure what can be done about this one. We have been sleeping together for almost 2 years on and off... he's been there when I needed him... in the physical sense. Some would call it the best of all the manventures I had... this one we both had the understanding of each others needs. But regardless of physical I could also hold conversations with the guy who made me feel like a cougar. He was intelligent and that is what drove me to want him more... he had a thirst for knowledge that was unbelievable for a guy the age of 23 and out of college. Some nights we could stay up for hours exchanging witty banter.
I never had to question where we stood with each other... until the last month. Which will be continued...

Basically... you have it there was only one other guy in the mix before thanksgiving...
The History Teacher...
he taught me if you see the same (bad) qualities in a guy(s) you have dated in the past there will probably be no future. And there was no future. The first date he did everything right... held my hand.. called me beautiful.. bought my dinner... walked the streets of the city gazing at the newly put up Christmas lights. The second date was like two old friends catching up... there was no romance... no intrigue...

That was all... pardon the pun... History... and so was he...

Randomly I was asked out by the 7 year crush who still to this date will never cease to give up and my college ex. The one guy who I let down my wall for... is the one guy who hurt me so bad that the wall is up... not for good but enough that after almost two years I still haven't found someone who really made me crazy happy...

Until recently that is...

XOXO
**ME**