Where are they now?

Hi again avid followers, newcomers, future exes and my future husband,

Similar to a VH1 special of ex TV and movie stars who have seemed to just disappear I began to wonder the same about my ex-manventures and conquests. It has been 6 years since I have been battling the single life and on-line dating...

Here I am..
29 years old and in an on-again off-again relationship with of 4 years with a man that is afraid of commitment, but not afraid of seeing if there is anything better out there. I can't explain anymore why I put myself through it, but as I sit around while he is in Florida I began to wonder what happened to all those other guys... the ones that got away.

Here is an update on those who I could locate. (Thank you facebook for the updates)

 Level 10 clinger: My very first manventure has been happily in a relationship since 2012. No ring on it though!

The Marine: Currently a bartender and possibly still single. But I think that ship has sailed.

The Financial Analyst: This one actually went on a date with a girl I was once friends with... it didn't work out. He is still working the dating site world.

The teacher: ohhhh the teacher... I saw him a few times with things were not working out with the blue-eyed devil. But not more then 2 months ago he took himself off the market and off my facebook friend list. Engaged to the girl he met after me. Oh well.

Grey T-shirt Guy: I honestly wish I had my head on straight for this winner -- said no girl ever -- this loser runs in and around my newly open circle of friends. He is engaged (poor girl) and still as sleazy as ever. Not a loss here!

Mr. Dimples: Him and his creepy cat "Cookie" as still single. The last I heard from him was this New Years Eve. No thanks! BYE!

Cougar (my little cub RAWR): Is now a baby daddy and engaged! DUMB... so much for a back-up plan.

And the others? I have no idea what happened to them; however, they were all good men. If they weren't they would have never ended up on even one date with me.

Now I have a choice. Get back on the dating site train and say good-bye to the blue-eyed devil or I truck on... stick it out... be patient

I may never really be able to give up on him.

XOXO
**ME**

A free dinner...

Hi again avid followers, newcomers, future exes and my future husband,

It's the beginning of May (2008)... and the Marine left for his training base in California...it is sad of course but he's still in the states and you never know when he really have to leave... it could be in a week, two months or another year...

The marine says he gets to come home before he goes over... I'll be waiting...

But for now I decided to keep up with the manventures...

but what I did was an well... I just wanted a free dinner...

from...

the level 10 clinger!

UGH! I think I was in desperate need of attention and of course the number one stalker on the block will give me the much needed attention I needed

I flirted with the waiter...ordered a chocolate martini and ordered the best meal ever...

I had fun...

I don't think he did...

wow I'm a bitch but seriously I think it is a well deserved for the level 10 clinger....

Okay I need to make another rule
NO PITY DINNERS... it is bad for both people attending

Xoxo
**ME**


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A Fumble at the ballgame

Hi again avid followers, newcomers, future exes and my future husband,

I set a second date with the financial analyst... I'm happy about...He's not the marine and really I don't think I am settling okay maybe I am...

I just want to feel that spark again... we will see...

So anyway back to the 2nd date...I decided we would go to a local minor league baseball team. I wanted to see the sports knowledge of this man because I love baseball I mean absolutely love the game... we decide to meet in the parking lot of the store down the street and go to the game together. I'm sooo sweet... that I pay for parking because I never told him about having to have to pay for parking haha myyy bad! We get to the game and get two field tickets. GREAT SEATS! Third baseline and about 7 rows up. Ideal to watch the game and see the butt of the third baseman who is soooo hot!

The game begins and I am enjoying the game and then...he takes out his digital camera...no, no we don't do this...I don't take pictures on the 1st or 2nd date. What's the reason!? To have memories of a date gone wrong? To see how horrible we look together? Well... I guess I could see how good I looked...hmmm I'll remember that.

I order a "cold bear hair" (cold beer here) from a slightly overweight bald man who was out of breath from bending over...WHAT A MAN! The financial anaylst just looked at me like.. are you seriously going to drink a beer. HELL YEA I AM! And if they come around with "hawt dogs" i'll get one of those too! Geez someone needs to loosen up his tie.

In the midst of the beer the opposing team hit a shot to the outfield...and our right fielder dropped it...SERIOUSLY! no wonder we are LAST in all that is minor league baseball. While I am yelling to stick with it Mr. Financial Analyst says....

ugh... he fumbled it

FUMBLED?! Realllyyyy!!! We are at a BASEBALL GAME not a FOOTBALL GAME. I think my blank stare and silent are you kidding me demeanor prompted his... just a test to see if you really understood the game.

LISTEN BUDDY! After ten years of softball and following baseball my ENTIRE life I am sure I KNOW BASEBALL.... is this game over yet....
Leaving the game I check my cellphone...

Good game isn't it --Level 10 Clinger

KILL MY LIFE!!! WHY! I don't answer I can't start this again...but I mean I could probably get a free meal out of it hmmmm evil I know...

The Financial Analyst took me back to my car but he did not hesitate to mention the bars I go to are dive bars...ohhh cause he is so CLASSY and drinks chick drinks cause he can't stand beer. THEN before I get in my car he mentions how I should probably wash it... oh and he would like to see me again. REALLY!? I don't think so... I think this is the last date unless something changes

I need to start new...

New Rules to add

• must know the difference between a fumble and a error
• must enjoy a dive bar
• MUST enjoy a beer

Xoxo
**ME**

Sempri Fi! What a guy!

Hi again avid followers, newcomers, future exes, and my future husband,

Mid January of 08 after giving the clinger the cold shoulder I got up the nerve to email a guy you can say I was virtually stalking...not at all in a crazy way (crazy i.e. Mr. Level 10 clinger) I just would check out his new pictures and updated profile. He was intriguing to me...

What was so intriguing?? Well he was a marine, self proclaimed pirate, loves cooking, cook outs, and he was wearing an eagles jersey.

So after a few days of waiting and thinking will he like me? Is he crazy? And more importantly... WILL HE LIKE ME?! I emailed him. Who would have thought that first email to someone you never met or talk to would make your palms sweat and heart race. I am getting flustered just thinking and TYPING about it! phew...okay where was I... I emailed the Marine and I (trying probably wayyy to hard for him to think I was interesting) put the subject line as arrrggghhhh yeah I did that.... I wrote something witty about him being a pirate and if he found any buried treasure lately then I signed it just with my first initial. And I prayed that he would see it, respond, and everything would be amazing.

sooo I waited...

and waited....

and waited....

Then when I least expected it I received an email. He first made it a point to tell me that pirates say yarrrr and he hasn't found any treasure but he thinks he is getting close. He went on to talk about how he lived 45 minutes away but came to the Lehigh Valley one weekend a month and he would be in my area that coming weekend. Now of course I thought back to my rules... I emailed him so that was selective ::check::, I could meet him that weekend ::check::, he admitted to being crazy but who isn't?! he said, and any man who could pull off that uniform I would call a manly man! ::check:: I emailed him again and told him I would love to meet up and gave him my number.

The week couldn't go fast enough and as soon as friday hit I was showered and ready to meet this mystery pirate man. I went out with some of my girl friends first to a local martini bar...checking my cell phone every five minutes to see where he was with the rest of the marines that evening....The evening passed and he text to let me know the guys where all going back to their hotel and I was more than welcome to come along...after the thoughts racing through my mind of what could happen that night I thought it best to not take the offer and go home. I don't regret it at all because the next night was more than I could have imagined.

We met at a hole in the wall bar. I am talking cheap drinks, townies, and the remodeling of bathrooms the kind of bar with the only bathroom left was indoor for the ladies and they had a nice little port-o'-john outside for the men. I waited patiently with my girlfriend trying not to drink too much before he got there then he walked in... 5'10" a gorgeous man in a black dress shirt and dark blue jeans. His sleeves just rolled up slightly to see his tattoos. We hugged, he kissed my forehead and I was sold. He introduced me to his friend marine 2 (equally as attractive)...they told me about their time in Iraq and how they were separated only to find each other in some city. I couldn't take my eyes off him...he held my hand and made me laugh. Not like a ugly double chin laugh but a I can't believe I am sitting here with you...you unbelievable man! He went to the bathroom and I was able to talk to marine 2...He told me he never saw his friend like this before and it would have to take a strong-hearted woman to help him with all the heartache he has gone through in the past few years. I received a text as he was in line and it just said...

hi. don't fall for my friend while I am gone.

The rest of the night we held hands, kissed, and laughed before I went back with him to his hotel room and we laid in bed and talked...and well I will keep this g-rated but we did sleep together. The next morning I watched him change into his little uniform, he kissed my forehead and said we would be seeing each other soon.

I believed him. I wanted to...

I just wanted a fairytale ending to meeting him...and there would be...maybe not this first weekend but another...

Stay tuned! Dates with the Marine did NOT stop here....neither did any of my other manventures!

xoxo
**ME**

Level 10 Clinger

Hi again avid followers, newcomers, future exes and my future husband...

Now to really understand where I am coming from with all this dating site garbage I need to start from my number one...who and what started it all... My first 'manventure'.

My profile is simple it doesn't reveal too much but it definitely initiates lots of conversation aka emails. At first I set rules...
1) I don't give out my name or number
2) I don't go out with anyone until I am completely ready...
well that didn't last long! But I did add if a guy asks for naked pics he's a loser and if he emails you in some strange text language he is well.... example:

"Hey! How r u? I saw ya on da site n I thnk ur a qt! If I could get 2 know u that would b gr8t! Here is 1 of my pix. Let me now what u thnk"

Translation: LOSER!

All I want is an educated, attractive, emotionally stable and fun guy! Is that too much to ask for??!!

The first guy I ever met up with was a 28 year old sports announcer for ESPN radio and a golf coach. It was mid December when college basketball just started getting exciting and we both shared a common interest in college ball. We had been emailing for two weeks, then it went to im-ing and finally the exchange of numbers and the texts began. Now I am not complaining about the texts at all!! I happen to like texting but he loved it and to show his dedication in our newly formed VIRTUAL friendship he got unlimited texting...for me...which he reminded me frequently. Soon the texts a few times a day turned into all day even if I didn't respond and as soon as I got on my im he was the first to see what I was doing. His profile on the site changed to currently not looking...then it hit me....there is a reason everyone is on dating site, his reason...

LEVEL 10 CLINGER!

I thought maybe if I ignore him he'll go away...I'll lose my phone, change my number, be diagnosed with a incurable very contagious disease...no such luck. Okay so he's into me. This wasn't a game...he took dating sites seriously... very seriously. A week or two after the new year I came home from a job interview and there was a message just for me.

"Coffee, 1pm @ barnes and noble. See ya there- Clinger"

Perfect! I could stand him up and then it would be over! Yeah...I could but unfortunately I am way too nice. So I went...and there he was... thin and maybe 5'3" on a good day with a face only a mother could love (damn people using pictures that probably only look like them after I had 5 or 6 gin and tonics). I thought...I can run or maybe introduce myself to the cute guy by the magazines...no such luck. Mr. "I memorized every picture you have on your site" was already walking over to me. After a pretty much forced conversation, a tall cafe mocha and a free bag of dove chocolates we went our separate ways.

A few days later I received an ecard from him to randomly have a good day...that's nice but then he started calling before bed....just to say goodnight. Then he wanted my address...sorry I don't give that out. Oh! But what did he want it for?? You know the normal....flowers, gifts, to climb up the drain pipe and watch me sleep. Not creepy at all! A day or two after that he changed his facebook status to complicated...because of me.

I stop answering his calls, emails and ims and soon mr. Level 10 clinger faded... I still get angry messages once in awhile cause I am a heart breaker...but I'd rather be that than crazy!

Lesson learned... I decided to:
1) Be more selective
2) Get the date over with sooner
3) Try to somehow test their level of clinginess
4) Find manlier men

I must say if I would have known my dates would be so...interesting I would have started this Blog a long time ago! Thank god I kept a journal!

Stay tuned! I have lots to catch you up on

Xoxo
**ME**