Where are they now?

Hi again avid followers, newcomers, future exes and my future husband,

Similar to a VH1 special of ex TV and movie stars who have seemed to just disappear I began to wonder the same about my ex-manventures and conquests. It has been 6 years since I have been battling the single life and on-line dating...

Here I am..
29 years old and in an on-again off-again relationship with of 4 years with a man that is afraid of commitment, but not afraid of seeing if there is anything better out there. I can't explain anymore why I put myself through it, but as I sit around while he is in Florida I began to wonder what happened to all those other guys... the ones that got away.

Here is an update on those who I could locate. (Thank you facebook for the updates)

 Level 10 clinger: My very first manventure has been happily in a relationship since 2012. No ring on it though!

The Marine: Currently a bartender and possibly still single. But I think that ship has sailed.

The Financial Analyst: This one actually went on a date with a girl I was once friends with... it didn't work out. He is still working the dating site world.

The teacher: ohhhh the teacher... I saw him a few times with things were not working out with the blue-eyed devil. But not more then 2 months ago he took himself off the market and off my facebook friend list. Engaged to the girl he met after me. Oh well.

Grey T-shirt Guy: I honestly wish I had my head on straight for this winner -- said no girl ever -- this loser runs in and around my newly open circle of friends. He is engaged (poor girl) and still as sleazy as ever. Not a loss here!

Mr. Dimples: Him and his creepy cat "Cookie" as still single. The last I heard from him was this New Years Eve. No thanks! BYE!

Cougar (my little cub RAWR): Is now a baby daddy and engaged! DUMB... so much for a back-up plan.

And the others? I have no idea what happened to them; however, they were all good men. If they weren't they would have never ended up on even one date with me.

Now I have a choice. Get back on the dating site train and say good-bye to the blue-eyed devil or I truck on... stick it out... be patient

I may never really be able to give up on him.

XOXO
**ME**

3am I must be dreaming

July 10th

Hi again avid followers, newcomers, future exes and my future husband,

He's been in and out of my life now for over a year. And yet... he still captures me. Maybe because he is that dark, mysterious, and dangerous man I have been seeking for so long. Whenever I hear from him I get a rush of emotions... lonely, happy, sad... but mostly happy. That is the one thing he was always good at.

The Marine... who has been posted about A LOT. (newcomers I would suggest checking out the past posting to get caught up)

At this point I had not thought much of him... he had changed for the good or bad since he had gone back to Iraq and I was not going to be the one to bring back the man that I had first met and fell for... although I had wanted to be... he wasn't going to let me.

I woke up like every other weekday early... showered and got ready for work. I have my cellphone on a sleeper til 7 in the morning so I am not woken up in the middle of the night. I went about my normal routine and checked my cellphone and my heart came to a stand still...

1am... Missed call from the Marine
2am... Texts from the Marine... "You up babe?" "call me when you get a chance"
3am.. Missed call with a voice mail
"Hey darling... call me... **static static** leaving soon"

So I text him once I calmed down... but that was it...

I guess in my mind I was hoping it wasn't just a drunk late night I am in town call... but it was... and well strangely enough it helped me put a close to how I felt for him... his last 3am call allowed me to move on...

hopefully to BIGGER and BETTER... men


XOXO
**ME**

The Optimist

Hi again avid followers, newcomers, future exes and my future husband,

The marine is back... as I had excitedly described in prior "real time" blogs so if you didn't read them you may want to check them out.

It is now almost the end of March...

He's not the same... and I knew that would be what would happen. They say they never come back the same when then return from over there... from Iraq. I really wanted to believe the marine would be the same man he was before he left... the man that gave me butterflies and made me feel beautiful even though he may not have even known it.

He is bitter. People suck. The world sucks. The guy who was happy and fun.

I told him things would get better. He just needs to adjust...but maybe I'm just an optimist.

Yeah.. and I'm a realist (so he said)

and that was that... I didn't message him back. What else was there to say? Maybe he just needs some time...

It probably wasn't meant to work out and it is probably better this way...

XOXO
**ME**

If my hands stop shaking...

I will be able to type this...


the marine just text me. He's in allentown... I'm in allentown.

I have to pee i'm so excited


Xoxo
**ME**

Dear Santa send me a hot guy...

Hi again avid followers, newcomers, future exes and my future husband,

Christmas. December 2008. A joyous time of year with family, friends and snow. I love freshly fallen snow the kind that is untouched by any crazy kids or hyper dogs.

The surgical nurse becomes more and more distant and I... I am back on my dating site. Hoping he will come around and at least give me some kind of closure. I had at this point devoted a few months to a fizzling bond...which I once again can not let go. Oh a wicked spell this is...the lovebug. I..am painfully...slowly giving up without a fight. Why fight for someone who is fading. It's a lost cause.

I did take a picture (with my cellphone) of a row of Christmas trees and sent it to him...
just because he loves Christmas

Maybe...just maybe I shouldn't of opened my mouth when he was last here. Questioning him on the thought of starting a relationship.

Yet... then he calls me again. Talks about his day, hunting, and friends. I could just end it but unfortunately my friends... I can't... I could smile and pretend to be happy forever.

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A few days after Christmas I received an email from the Marine. He is well. And should be home sometime this coming summer. We will see.... at least he takes my mind off of the surgical nurse every once in awhile


Xoxo
**ME**

PS. I am almost caught up only 3 months to go! haha :)

Exciting news...

Hey all!

Well I woke up almost late for woke grabbed my cell phone and...

THE MARINE... my marine! He text me... he is home.

I have been struggling with the inspiration for writing on here and well now... he's home!

I have to work butttt I will definitely keep you all updated on this...besides I am only up to November 08 in my manventure updates oh boy! sooo much to do

Xoxo
**ME**

I have to ask you something...

Hi again avid followers, newcomers, future exes and my future husband,

In most circumstances no likes to hear... "We need to talk", "I have to ask/tell you something". In my experience it means, yeah I forgot to tell you I have another girlfriend or this is just going to be a friends with benefits thing. Anyway... This was nothing like it.

The monday after my first sneezy date with the surgical nurse he called me. Now...I must set this up a little better. For my friends who know there was not a minute when I wasn't talking to him, texting him, talking about him...and all but two days after the first date. I should have had an air mattress because friends...

I was falling HARD.

My mom says you'll know as soon as you meet someone and well I knew I wanted to talk to him morning noon and night.

That monday night when he said I have to ask you something...I wanted to throw up. Already? Here it comes another GREAT letdown to put in the books...

There is a wedding next weekend..will you be my date.

Mmm.... Yes! Of course! In a heartbeat.

Great! You'll meet my parents...best friends...their parents...

I had to secretly stop and breathe.

5 days till I get a whole weekend with the surgical nurse...I can't help but feel a little guilty about being sooo happy but not thinking about the Marine...

But then the weekend may be a complete disaster...

Xoxo
**ME**

The Last Call

Hi again avid followers, newcomers, future exes and my future husband,


This morning I got a call...

Well it wasn't today it was back in july...the marine called. He's back from base...but he's being deployed...

So there I am half asleep and he asks to see me.

Now?
"Yes...now"
I'm sleeping I can't...I'm so tired. When do you leave?

This is the part when I day dream about him having more than a month and he wants to spend it with me...

"Tomorrow...8am..."

FML I work tomorrow...

That morning I am driving to work. I get a call from the marine. I'm at the airport I'll call you before I leave....

Breathe

It's not like I was dating him. Sooo then why am I so upset...

I get a call just before 8...

I hear my name...the phone line goes dead

My marine is on his way back to the sandpit... It's all about emails now....

Xoxo
**ME**

A free dinner...

Hi again avid followers, newcomers, future exes and my future husband,

It's the beginning of May (2008)... and the Marine left for his training base in California...it is sad of course but he's still in the states and you never know when he really have to leave... it could be in a week, two months or another year...

The marine says he gets to come home before he goes over... I'll be waiting...

But for now I decided to keep up with the manventures...

but what I did was an well... I just wanted a free dinner...

from...

the level 10 clinger!

UGH! I think I was in desperate need of attention and of course the number one stalker on the block will give me the much needed attention I needed

I flirted with the waiter...ordered a chocolate martini and ordered the best meal ever...

I had fun...

I don't think he did...

wow I'm a bitch but seriously I think it is a well deserved for the level 10 clinger....

Okay I need to make another rule
NO PITY DINNERS... it is bad for both people attending

Xoxo
**ME**


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Now playing: Meredith Brooks - Bitch
via FoxyTunes

Come sail away...

Hi again avid followers, newcomers, future exes and my future husband,

It's 11pm...(well not right now but it was then) It was the end of April and I went to see my sister down in Virginia. I received a call from the Marine for the first time in about a month.

"Hey! Where are you?"
My Response In Virginia
Marine "I drove in for the weekend so I could see you...

I was asked to go back to Iraq...

but... at the end of May I have to leave for California for some training"

I cry...

for most of the night...

This would happen to me...

Xoxo

**ME**

Que sera sera

Hi again avid followers, newcomers, future exes and my future husband,

It's Easter and my sister is home from college which I am psyched about really! So...I probably should tell her...

I'm addicted to dating sites....

This is what I am waiting for from my perfect always in a relationship little sister...

You're crazy...they must have something wrong with them...they aren't that good looking....what are you thinking?!?

So we go out for the night and as we are ending up the night out at the diner for an after bar breakfest, my cell starts to vibrate. SWEET! I knew exactly who it was regardless of the time... the marine was able to get off base to spend some time with me.

I know it is late, he says, but I would really like to see you tonight. Work has been crazy and I won't be able to see you any other time this weekend.

yes, YES! Is the thought that came to my head. It would be prefect my sister could take me there and just come get me in the morning. Little did I know the tables would have turned...my sister...the one who always says to grow up...make the first move. YOUR TRUE LOVE IS NOT GOING TO FALL INTO YOUR LAP! Hasss to talk to the Marine first...

Nope..NO...no you're not going. He just wants to sleep with you. He called me sweetheart. He does NOT care about you...

...and as my eyes swelled with tears it hits me, in some strange way it is like she doesn't want me to be happy. Because when it comes down to it... I don't care about the 3am calls because I still get calls during the week, the emails, the ims, the text messages.... just once I would like to be the happy one. But...not now...not this time...the marine calls me back and he is baffled and angry and hangs up

He hung up...on me...and when I tried to call him back he there was no answer...

There it goes out the window...

My biggest regret... not going to see him that night. Maybe things would have been different today.

Xoxo
**ME**

An officer and a gentleman

Hi again avid followers, newcomers, future exes and my future husband,

He's back! Who you may ask?? The marine of course. Remember it is still only the first weekend of every month. That's all...just one month and just for a few hours. Some would say...

Move on

Date other people

Forget about him

Marines are womanizers

Those few hours and that one day have been the best memories I have had in a while. The marine...he treats me like no one has ever treated me before. He does all the right things at the right time andddd he can last all night. (Without going into details)

He's finally able to get off base and he rented the perfect hotel room for the night. It was not a shitty bang-a-thon hotel, nope not for this lady, it was a Hilton extended stay...with a kitchen, hugeeee extra king sized bed, andddd a huge bath. So I lay around and watch him jam out to the dropkick murphys and talk about getting a new tattoo...

After an amazing night and this time no roommate... I woke up to him dressed in fatigues lacing up his boots. This time I wasn't okay with him just leaving....I needed 5 more minutes...just 5....

Then with a kiss on the forehead and a small speech on how the month will go fast... he was out the door...

I just laid there for the next hour...thinking maybe he would be back... maybe he'd forgotten something....

Like me...

Xoxo
**ME**

Appe-teasers

Hi again avid followers, newcomers, future exes and my future husband,

It's March of 08 and boy have I been busy! Between the numerous emails from the good, bad and just plain ugly...the marine...and new dates. I am currently on two free sites now. The funny thing is you still get matched with the same people so it really is not anything new. I basically use one for forums and my distance men and the other for my manventures. Not that one site is better than the other! It just happens to work out that way...
Now don't worry your curious little heads! The marine is alive and well and still very much in the picture. He asked me to come over to his apartment for a few nights, but I was still looking for a job, then I got a job.... However, their weekend passes (when he come here) have been revoked because of some guy who couldn't keep his mouth shut...I offered to sneak in but he said I'd probably be shot. Oh well...I'll politely decline. I'd gladly risk a slap on the wrist to see him but being shot at...I may be flexible but I can't dodge bullets.

I met someone new...he's 28, a financial analyst, tall, dark and handsome. He's interesting to say the least...funny and witty but definitely knows what he wants.
So Mr. Financial Analyst...we met for some appetizers and conversation at a local restaurant. He ordered first...a water with lemon. Okay...I'll have a cherry coke. Then it starts...an integration that would have made OJ Simpsons head spin.

How often do you drink? What did you go to school for? Last date? Why did your last relationship end? What do you do for fun? Drugs? Religion? When was the last time you had sex....

WHOA! Hold on there cowboy! This blog is rated G! (sorry to my avid followers who are just dying to hear about all my hot nights with the marine). Now I love first dates they are as addicting as dating sites but I hate question and answer periods. I like random conversations because in a real relationship it won't be question and answers all day. That first conversation lets you know if that guy can really keep up with me. I think it was the nerves cause we were out for almost four hours....talking, laughing and thinking about a second date....

I'm thinking a second date will happen...and it's my pick!? Spring is coming... Why not baseball?
: ) I'll see how much this guy knows.

Xoxo
**ME**

Sempri Fi! What a guy!

Hi again avid followers, newcomers, future exes, and my future husband,

Mid January of 08 after giving the clinger the cold shoulder I got up the nerve to email a guy you can say I was virtually stalking...not at all in a crazy way (crazy i.e. Mr. Level 10 clinger) I just would check out his new pictures and updated profile. He was intriguing to me...

What was so intriguing?? Well he was a marine, self proclaimed pirate, loves cooking, cook outs, and he was wearing an eagles jersey.

So after a few days of waiting and thinking will he like me? Is he crazy? And more importantly... WILL HE LIKE ME?! I emailed him. Who would have thought that first email to someone you never met or talk to would make your palms sweat and heart race. I am getting flustered just thinking and TYPING about it! phew...okay where was I... I emailed the Marine and I (trying probably wayyy to hard for him to think I was interesting) put the subject line as arrrggghhhh yeah I did that.... I wrote something witty about him being a pirate and if he found any buried treasure lately then I signed it just with my first initial. And I prayed that he would see it, respond, and everything would be amazing.

sooo I waited...

and waited....

and waited....

Then when I least expected it I received an email. He first made it a point to tell me that pirates say yarrrr and he hasn't found any treasure but he thinks he is getting close. He went on to talk about how he lived 45 minutes away but came to the Lehigh Valley one weekend a month and he would be in my area that coming weekend. Now of course I thought back to my rules... I emailed him so that was selective ::check::, I could meet him that weekend ::check::, he admitted to being crazy but who isn't?! he said, and any man who could pull off that uniform I would call a manly man! ::check:: I emailed him again and told him I would love to meet up and gave him my number.

The week couldn't go fast enough and as soon as friday hit I was showered and ready to meet this mystery pirate man. I went out with some of my girl friends first to a local martini bar...checking my cell phone every five minutes to see where he was with the rest of the marines that evening....The evening passed and he text to let me know the guys where all going back to their hotel and I was more than welcome to come along...after the thoughts racing through my mind of what could happen that night I thought it best to not take the offer and go home. I don't regret it at all because the next night was more than I could have imagined.

We met at a hole in the wall bar. I am talking cheap drinks, townies, and the remodeling of bathrooms the kind of bar with the only bathroom left was indoor for the ladies and they had a nice little port-o'-john outside for the men. I waited patiently with my girlfriend trying not to drink too much before he got there then he walked in... 5'10" a gorgeous man in a black dress shirt and dark blue jeans. His sleeves just rolled up slightly to see his tattoos. We hugged, he kissed my forehead and I was sold. He introduced me to his friend marine 2 (equally as attractive)...they told me about their time in Iraq and how they were separated only to find each other in some city. I couldn't take my eyes off him...he held my hand and made me laugh. Not like a ugly double chin laugh but a I can't believe I am sitting here with you...you unbelievable man! He went to the bathroom and I was able to talk to marine 2...He told me he never saw his friend like this before and it would have to take a strong-hearted woman to help him with all the heartache he has gone through in the past few years. I received a text as he was in line and it just said...

hi. don't fall for my friend while I am gone.

The rest of the night we held hands, kissed, and laughed before I went back with him to his hotel room and we laid in bed and talked...and well I will keep this g-rated but we did sleep together. The next morning I watched him change into his little uniform, he kissed my forehead and said we would be seeing each other soon.

I believed him. I wanted to...

I just wanted a fairytale ending to meeting him...and there would be...maybe not this first weekend but another...

Stay tuned! Dates with the Marine did NOT stop here....neither did any of my other manventures!

xoxo
**ME**